One of the biggest misconceptions we all have about forgiveness is that by forgiving someone, we somehow make right what they did. We believe that if we forgive, then we condone their actions. As I begin to shift my perspective, I am slowly leaning towards that nothing could be further from the truth.
Forgiveness is often a difficult action to achieve. However, it is one of the most powerful sources of freedom. It is liberating. The choice to not forgive holds you in a self-contained prison. This workbook does not suggest that you approach the person you need to forgive. Forgiveness is not for the source of anger or sadness; forgiveness is for the one who suffers from the action … YOU.
As yoga practitioners, we are consistently challenged to make space in our body for everything we regret, for everyone who put confusion in our mind, and know that whatever we see in others is just a reflection of ourselves.
Forgiveness is a journey. Once you truly forgive a source of pain, you have freed yourself from the pain. Forgiveness does not mean you need to re-connect with this person. It is simply a way to release a source that is holding you back in many facets. Dwelling on the reason not to forgive will simply strengthen the binds that are in your mind and heart.
Take a moment to think about the person who hurt you. Remember that they also have a past, they have also likely experienced rejection and hurt and betrayal. To be able to turn away from your hurt even for a moment, and consider the other person’s situation requires strength. True strength. This is not saying that their behaviour or what they did to you is justified; it is never justified. What it is saying is that they are imperfect human beings who have more growing to do. Just like each one of us. We are all the same.
Whether you forgive your family for your past, forgive your loved one by speaking up, or forgive yourself by being kind, remember that once you forgive, you may actually feel gratitude for the opportunity to grow stronger spiritually. Who knows? This might even ignite you to pursue a goal to help others with a similar issue.
Forgiveness is actually a very selfish thing. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you condone the wrongs; forgiving someone means you are no longer willing to let pain from the past hold you down from living your dreams – Mastin Kipp.